The American Story

 Chinese Adoptees & Adoptee Culture

What is the adoptee "community?"

1. Collectivism in (Asian) Adoptee Culture
2. How Abandonment Explanations Fuel Self Hate and Perpetuate Lies about Worth
3. Famous Adoptees: A List
4. Celebrating "Gotcha" Day
5. Do Not Volunteer with Orphans
6. My Holt Camp Experience
7. Save Your Tears for the Truth
8. Coming out of the Proverbial Adoptee Fog
9. Out of the Fog, Part 2
10. What Does Being Female Have to Do With It?
11. Smile for the Camera! The Pressure to Keep Up Appearances for Adoptive Parents
12. Rolling Out the Red Carpet for Chinese Adoptees
13. Belonging and Not Belonging in the Chinese Adoption Community
    
14. Apologia: Good (= Safe) and Dealing with Expectations
    
15. Rant On Adoption Narratives
    
16. Journal Entry, Late August 2021
    
17. Journal Entry, Late February 2022
    
18. What can the "abandonment narrative" do for YOU?
    
19. Opinion: Adoptees Searching vs. Adoptive Parents Searching For Birthparents
    
20. dear china group
    

Mental Health

1. Exit Strategies, Hypervigilance, and Pre-Verbal PTSD
2. My Experience with Therapy and Therapists
3. My Experience with Journaling
4. My (Terrible) Experience with EMDR
5. Sensory Issues
6. Living with Anxious (Insecure) Attachment
7. Am I Enough?
8. 5 Secrets for My Younger Self
9. Trying to be me
10. Choosing to Seek My Own Happiness
11. I repeat to myself the truth and hope to redefine myself
    

Let's Talk About Race

(I'm a confident Chinese-American woman. So why does the world "grapple" with who I am and then turn around and accuse me of grappling with my identity? Maybe I'm not the "confused" one here.)

1. Why Diversity Matters
2. Dear America: I'm More Than My Race
3. Cultural Commentary from Skycedi
4. Amazing Asian Influencers You Should Follow
5. I was 13 when someone assumed I was my father's girlfriend
6. Dealing with Stereotypes as a Transracial Adoptee
7. How do I celebrate my Chinese American Culture? (Satire)
8. What does it mean to explore Chinese Culture as a Chinese Adoptee? (Not Satire)
9. Asian Eyes: "You have big eyes for an Asian person."
10. No, I Am Not a Product of Western Imperialism, Colonization, or Fetishization
11. I am a Transracial Adoptee and I am not "Grappling" with my Racial Identity
12. Anti-Asian Racism in the Age of Coronavirus
13. Pick a Lane: My parents are white. Get over it.
14. Stop Asian Hate.
    
15. Consuming "Asian-ness"
    

Words, words, words

1. What Lucky Really Means
2. We Need to Talk Vocabulary: Burden, Abandoned, Orphanage
3. The Burden of Gratitude
4. Take Destiny Out of the Equation and Listen
5. Where are you really from? And Other Classics
6. Syntax: The Right To Have Love vs. Deserving Love
7. Feeling Unwanted and Unloved
8. It's Getting Noisy in Here! This is what an adoptee hears
9. The Cunning Branding of the "Angry Adoptee"
10. Chinese Adoptee Mythology: Objectification and Trivialization of Chinese Adoptees
11. "Blood doesn't make a family, love does." Actually, they aren't mutually exclusive.
12. Rant: Rude Assumptions & Stupid Questions
13. Etiquette Tips When Talking About Adoption
14. Some Words: Romanticism, Volition, Fate
15. Things Intelligent Transracial Adoptees Are Tired of Heating on College Campuses
    
16. The Word "Trafficking"
    

What Adoptees Watch

1. aka DAN Documentary Reflection by a Chinese Adoptee
2. Thoughts Before Watching One Child Nation
3. Thoughts After Watching One Child Nation
4. Hidden Gem in "Somewhere Between" (2011)
5. Found: Thoughts and Feelings
   

My Two Cents on Media and Social Media

Ranting and raving about how adoptees are covered in media...and how we represent ourselves.

1. Wait, wait, don't tell me...Who am I?: The Media's Obsession with Adoptee Identity
2. 30 Rock Adoption Humor Questions the Status Quo
3. Satire: How to be an Adoptive Parent (According to the Internet)
4. Fake News & Fairytales: Imagery and Branding
5. Freak Show Filler-- From Human Zoos to Adoption "Feels"
6. Justifying Adoption Sorrows: Because feeling sad just isn't enough
7. A Guide to Orphan Tropes
8. Rant: So I suppose America draws the line at finding fees?
9. I am a Transracial Adoptee and I am not "Grappling" with my Racial Identity
10. For Allies Against Racism: How to Advocate Effectively Online
11. Transracial Adoptees According to the Media: Grappling, Struggling, and Hopelessly Confused
    
12. Problematic: Orphan Success Story
    
13. Greatness: Chinese Adoptees in the Tokyo Olympics 2021
    

Misc.

1. Mother's Day 2020: Dear Birthmother
2. My Supportive Family
3. My 100th Post (Timeline of events)
4. This is my life