Justifying Adoption Sorrows: Because feeling sad just isn't enough

Many adoptees will have at some point in their life, a moment where they will feel unhappy concerning their possible abandonment/abduction, time in an orphanage or foster home, and subsequent adoption. It's really not that surprising.

And yet, whenever I find an article from an adoptee attempting to articulate why they feel in some way shape or form different from the grateful fantasy child of the Fairytale Adoption Express, they have to pick a more legitimate route because feeling sad just isn't enough.

Typically this is expressed in one of three ways:
1) I feel bad because...transracial adoption is wrong because it ALWAYS involves a white parent adopting non-white babies and in America we have a very bad cultural history of doing this with Native Americans and other minorities to "save" them.
2) I feel bad because...all adoption is part of a multibillion dollar industry and is equivalent to human trafficking in all cases.
3) I feel bad because...I want to know my medical records for myself and my own children.

It is more than enough just to feel sad about missing your birthparents. You don't need a theory or a human injustice to feel sad. It can be enough to just know you have birthparents and that you may never know who they are or what your name is or what your birthday is or what happened...you've lost a language and a culture and an extended family. You can feel sad about that! You don't need questionable statistics about suicide and trafficking to legitimize your sorrows. It is enough to feel sad. Anyone who has a problem with your sadness just doesn't fully understand.